Sportsmanship: A debate for the losers

Preface:
Simply put, you lost, you ought to feel utterly humiliated with yourself and you should be treated as such.

Case & Facts:
I am so tired of listening to people piss and moan about how people reacted to their winning or losing in anything albeit sports or a business proposal. As was often said years ago, "to the victor go the spoils." and I believe it. I am not saying that when you win you should be running around jumping like a some queer from the circus but, certainly telling the other team "I am better than you and I defeated you soundly." shouldn't be a cause for concern or repercussion. If I lose, you will know it, I am furious with myself, almost to the point of nausea. I may have a very poor demeanor or I might even become a little violent. This is natural and in my view, a healthy approach, it shows you have some pride. Coincidently, when I lose, I have now opened myself up to the harassment of my opposition. He may treat me however he shall see fit. Knowing full well that my limitations are set in stone no matter what the score. If he is respectful in victory and simply tells me, great match, you were a good competitor but just not good enough today or he just slightly puts me out. I will treat him similarly in my victory. If he however is a joke and puts me out, I may well feel the obligation to remind him of his mortality and bounce his ass off the floor a few times. Keeping in mind whatever repercussions will be mine and mine alone because my losing in the first place is what even allowed this all to transpire.

Heat of the battle:
All of this “sportsmanship” and “gamesmanship” within the competition is a nothing more than a debate for the losers, something they can cry about to save face or not have to be ridiculed. It really is just a way to justify their loss and somehow still be seen on the same field as the winners, who are clearly superior. For example, with little kids, not having a clearly defined winner and loser cut the shit, if little Tommy doesn't understand he sucks at Tee ball, he never will understand when he sucks at life. It will build the loser's character and his durability, if nothing else, it should give him some incentive to work a little harder.

Off the field I might like you, hell I may even love you. On the field you are just another asshole I’m going to have to deal with and if that means I lay your ass out and step on your chest while doing so, so be it. I don’t believe in helping my opponent up, you help yourself, I don’t believe in sliding safely to not injure or playing defense without throwing jabs. If you get hurt, it’s your fault for not being a step ahead of me, if I get hurt, I am the asshole who didn’t prepare properly or it means while jostling for position, I was left insufficient. Either way you look at it, I am not helping you up. I will get in your head, I will bring up tough moments in your life, I will do whatever it takes to bend your focus or get you to implode and make just 1 mistake and then I will burn you on it, and I will do it repeatedly if you let me. I expect the same from you, if you don’t I will just think you’re a pansy and thus, I will work even harder to break you down mentally.

Often when the body isn’t holding up (similarly to the mind) we spout off threats or cocky guarantees in an effort to place fear in the opposition to hopefully shorten the gap in ability closer within our favor. I feed on those sort of things, I don’t make those comments because I expect the same of you. Sometime within a game or debate a person will start spouting off, it is typically an early warning of fatigue or waning confidence, that is the best time to strike. I often will go back and forth with people (most obviously in sports – but it works in just about everything) just long enough to get them to start mouthing off or doing anything I view as a deflection of focus, then I pounce on them and I just go until they are completely defeated.

At this point; I typically reserve the “act like you’ve been there before” approach. This is where I treat this victory as nothing more than the expected. That is if things go according to plan.

In the fight:
Sometimes though, I am the one on the ropes, I won’t let them know I am failing or that I am running down, especially by mouthing of idol threats and guarantees. But, I also don’t expect to lose either. So I will often let them be the aggressor and initiate the mouthing off, then I respond with things I typically think will get them to lose focus or try too hard as individuals not as a team within the strategy. Things such as calling them weak, or cowardly, inadequate or anything that will stir them up. I see nothing wrong with it, nothing at all. My feelings on this are simple. We are both spent, I am certainly on the ropes and clearly my opponent is too, otherwise he wouldn’t be jawing. This being the case, it is what I do here that will likely decide my fate. If I am physically empty I must mentally beat them, often nothing is more demoralizing than exposing their flaws and repeatedly harping on them. (e.g. I hit a homer in softball the other day and made sure to watch it leave the yard, then made a cocky gesture and stared at the pitcher as I very slowly made my way to first) It was showing him up, it got him more rattled, it showed him I have no respect for his skills and trust me, he will remember that the rest of the game, in all likelihood, he is mine going forward.

In Conclusion:
Surely, in a fair fight I wouldn’t show him up like that, because then I look like the loser getting his first win. But, in this scenario it is important to establish dominance because at the end of the game it’s the only card you have left in your hand. At the conclusion of our competition, I will shake your hand in victory or defeat I will say good match or whatever. If I lost, I am likely furious and it will take days or even years for me to get over it, and even then I probably won’t until I defeat you in the future. I fully expect you as a result to humiliate me in your victory and I will handle it as part of my responsibility as the loser, but know, if in fact I beat you, that I am enjoying that dumb look stuck on your face. Truthfully, it is what I worked so hard to achieve. The game was meaningless to me, the money made in the deal or even the awards and notoriety granted to me, I did it all to see that pathetic morally defeated look in your eyes.